Return to Tonga, difficult for children of migrants

There is not much we can do about the culture shock because Tonga has its own way of doing things and that difference I think is ok. It's difficult both ways, students going to NZ also are suddenly hit by different culture, and sadly some of their policies are not enough and the students end up getting swallowed up by gangs and going in and out of jail. So it's a problem for all countries to figure out ways to bring them in to our society and not feel left out and alone.

In my experience when I went overseas for secondary school it was a really big culture shock. What helped was going to a school tough on bullying and they had councillors there to help. We also had a time where a teacher would call on us P.I. students to come together and just talk and do activities. So maybe those are things we can look at, cracking down on bullying, councillors, and getting the overseas students together and chat and help each other out. God bless

Kapau 'oku lava 'ehe mataotao muli ni ke ne fekumi ki heni pea solova e polopalema ni ma'a Tonga, 'e tokoni lahi eni ki he fanau Tonga nofo muli kae fie ako i Tonga etc. 'Oku ou tui e fiefia lahi e pule'anga 'Aositelelia he na'a nau faka-pa'anga e fakatotolo ni, ke tokoni ki he pule'anga ke 'oange ha'a ne ngaue pea tuku ke ne tokanga'i 'e ia e tafa'aki ko'eni. He 'oku mahino mai kapau na'e faka-pa'anga eni 'ehe ARC, pea ta 'oku fu'u mahu'inga fau 'aupito eni ki Tonga. 'Ofa pe 'e anga'ofa e Palemia mo e pule'anga ke 'oange ha ngaue lelei a'e Palofesa ni 'i Tonga. Ko hono 'uhinga he'e tokoni lahi eni ki he fanau Tonga nofo muli, pea 'ikai ngata pe ai ka ko e hako tupu e fonua 'i Tonga pe....'Ofa ki Tonga.

Ko e 'oatu koia 'emau fanau mei 'Amelika ni ke ako 'i Tongaa, ko e lototaha (conspiracy) ia 'a e matu'a mo e pule'anga 'Amelika ke teke'i atu 'a e palopalema 'emau fanau ki Tonga ke feinga'i ai, pe 'e lava koaa ke solova hena palopalema pe 'ikai. Ko e pahia ia 'a e tamai mo e fa'ee 'i he palopalema kehekehe fanau pea tokua ko e founga lelei taha pe ke teke'i atu a ki Tongana e palopalema, ka na 'ela pe kinaua 'i 'Amelika ni. Ko hono 'uhinga he 'oku 'ikai fie tali 'ehe tamai ia mo e fa'ee 'a e (responsibility) ke tauhi 'ena fanau ki he lelei taha. Pehe pe ki he Pule'anga 'Amelika, ka lahilahi pe faihia ia 'a e ki'i tamasi'i Tongaa, neongo 'ene US sitiseni kuo fakaheka atu ia ki Tonga kae li'aki e famili ia heni lolotonga ia 'oku fele ngaahi polokalama heni ke ako'i ai kinautolu (laulanu). Na'aku ha'u ki 'Amelika ni ko e fekumi faka-'ekonomika kau ai mo e faingamalie ako ki he'eku fanau. 'Oku ma'olunga 'a e ako 'i Tonga, ka 'oku 'ikai ha toe 'uhinga lelei ia ke toe fakafoki atu 'emau fanau ke ako 'i Tonga he 'oku 'ikai tali 'a e ngaahi tohi fakamo'oni ako ia 'a Tongaa ke fakakaukau'i ai kita ki he ngaahi ngaue faka-pule'anga mo e ngaahi ngaue 'oku lelei angee 'i he fonuani (eg ko e minimum qualification ki he 'ofisa polisi ko e US High school diploma not Tongan HS diploma etc). Ko e fekumi ki he 'ulungaanga faka-Tonga 'oku fai pe ia 'e au 'i 'api. Tokua 'oku pehee 'ehe tokolahi ko Tonga pe ko e fonua 'ulungaanga faka'ap'apa mo lelei taha pe ia 'i mamani (kapisi). 'Oku 'ulungaanga lelei mo faka'apa'apa 'a NZ, Australia, UK, US mo e fe fua. Ko e fanau 'oku 'ulungaanga kovi konautolu pe ia 'oku 'ulungaanga kovi mo ta'e faka'apa'apa tatau aipe pe ko e matakali fe. Me'a faka'ofo'ofa 'ete ngaue fakataha mo e kakai e fonua ni 'enau ngaue'aki e 'please, excuse me etc'. 'Oku ou ako'i ma'upe 'eku fanauu ko e 'excuse me ko e fakatulou ia 'Oku ou ako'i pe 'a e lea faka-Tonga, hisitolia 'o Tonga, siokalafi, 'ulungaanga faka-Tonga etc 'i 'api. Kaikehe 'oku totonu ke mau nofo pe 'i he sisitemi ako 'o e fonua ni he koia pe tene tokoni'i kimautolu ki he kumi 'emau ngaahi ngaue pea mo 'emau mo'ui 'i he fonua ni. Pea ka to atu ha'amau fanau 'o ako 'i Tonga ko e anga pe ia 'emau feinga ke solova homau ngaahi palopalema. Na'e 'i ai hoku ongo kaunga ako na'e 'oatu hona ongo foha 'o ako 'i Toloa 'i he 1990s. Ko e tokotaha 'oku 'in mo out' mei pilisone, pea tokotaha 'oku lolotonga 'ela 'i pilisone 'ikai 'ilo pe 'e toe tuku mai pe 'ikai ko e 'drug dealer'..........SAIA